I have always wanted to write about love
for some time now, but it’s hard expressing my feelings. Over the years I have thought
to myself this love of a thing is it really worth it. At one point in my life I
just felt that I don’t have to acknowledge the love that people showed me, but
does the person knows you love them back? I say stuffs like she knows I love
her or he knows I love him. But really do they know that? When was the last time
you told your partner you love him/her? When was the last time you made them
feel special like they are your highest priority? I learnt much late that
telling someone how you feel about them makes everyone happy. I no longer hold
back my feelings these days. It is hard for someone to love you if you are
never there and it is hard to love someone who wants you with them all the
time. It is not a sign of weakness to tell someone you love them or let them
love you. I believe it is more than strength because you are confident enough
in yourself that you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Love is not all you need
in a relationship, you need mutual understanding, respect, compromise,
sacrifice, willingness to work at it and stand by him or her when times get
rough. You need to be willing to be by their side not only during the bright
days but during the dark days, to encourage them to become the best version of
themselves but also to love and accept them as they are. To have the impression
that there is a perfect person somewhere that will come for you is to have the
impression that relationships do not take work, when in fact no relationship
has ever worked without work itself. Love isn’t all sunshine and blue skies,
there will be lots of rain, thunderstorms, hurricanes and you’re just going to
have to get used to it.
Life is messy, relationships are
messy. The truth is the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you
see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why relationships and
marriages fail. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act
when they are out of money or under pressure. For goodness sake, love is
something different. Love is choosing to be with someone in spite of their
short comings. Love is patient and kind, love is pain and sacrifice, it’s
seeing the darkness in another person and still wanting to be with that person.
Love is never easy. It was never designed to be easy. It would be wrong for
anyone to expect love to be simple and uncomplicated. Love is never going to be
as smooth as a hot knife running through butter, if you really love someone is
not a matter of convenience. It’s not only something you feel only when times
are good if u feel so then you don’t love that person. When times are hard you
pull those you love closer not away.
A strong relationship requires
choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle like each
other. If you are genuinely in love with someone, you won’t spend all day
staring deeply into each other’s eyes. No, no, no you are going to have to
stress yourself out trying to balance time and your energy for your
relationship. You are going to have to deal with your career, your social life,
your family and your finances including your relationship. Life isn’t a
romantic Hollywood movie. In the real world there’s room for disappointments,
broken promises, disagreements, arguments, fights, shattered dreams which can
take a toll on your relationships you really have to fight to protect your love
that you have for your partner.
Some say love should be easy but in
many instances, it’s not the love that is difficult but rather getting it right
causes turmoil and tears. We are incredibly and beautifully flawed humans, we
mess up about twice as much as we wish we did and somehow it seems the only way
we learn is the hard way. If you love deeply, you are going to get hurt badly. But
it’s still worth it.
No matter how intimidating it may be
to fall in love with someone, it’s always something that is worth fighting for.
No matter the risks involved in falling in love, you must be able to take that
bet. Love is the single most beautiful thing in the world that we could ever
get to experience.
“True love is about vulnerability;
allowing someone to see that you want and need them in your life, and trusting
them not to hurt you”
Love is hard it’s like a job , so if you’re
not ready to love let your partner know say ha no be love matter be this, look
this is what I want, to reduce heart breaks in Nigeria Biko. Imagine you loving
someone with all your heart making sacrifices and all and the person is
thinking is a joke ha!!!!! Please o. But most importantly love is a beautiful
thing *winks*
How do you feel about love, I want to
hear your thoughts, please feel free to drop your comments.
Merry Christmas and prosperous New
Year
IG @kristabellll2
XOXO BELLA
Wow! This is lovely. Love is crazy sha, still in the working process in mine
ReplyDeleteI know right , thanks
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