BE YOURSELF

" Be yourself" we hear it all the time. but are we really meant to be ourselves all the time? what about on a first date? lunch with your in-laws? when meeting an intimidating manager or client? a job interview?.

Obviously there are times where it is adaptive to protect your true self or your thoughts and feelings. some people and situations are unsafe and it is wise to hold back. As you become more aware of the circumstances in which you don a certain mask, don't be frustrated if you cant change your behavior right away. You've been likely being doing this for years perhaps your entire life. Be patient and gentle with yourself.

"when we are alone, instead of being ourselves  and fully enjoy ourselves, most of us yern for a relationship. however, in the relationship we hide vital part of ourselves behind a mask, and then wonder why we are unhappy. it is important that you learn to be yourself, because it is an indispensable element to having high esteem".

Being yourself what does it mean?

It is when you accept yourself as you are and you act according to your particular way of being, Without complexes, stereotypes or limitations of any kind. You are aware that you are different and you enjoy it. 

How do you feel when you appear within the context of life, are you really yourself? do you feel that you can be you, no matter the social situation you are in? faking your way through life is believing that if you let people know the real you, they wont like you. Maybe It seems that nothing you do is ever enough. the tapes that play in your head say that if people really knew  what was going on inside you, they would lose respect for you. maybe you keep trying to pretend to  make others happy and you are exhausted physically, emotionally and spiritually. While you play those roles, juggling those mask you have to wear and hide your pain... the pressure increases to keep pretending you have it all together. Did you ever consider the cost of your soul when you do this? the way you lose yourself? you would discover your true identity unless you identify and lay down those masks.

Being yourself is an individual identity

Just as all people have the right to a name and number of single card there is also and identity of your personality. You have to make an effort to find yourself. when you visualize and fulfill purposes then you have the power in your hands to accomplish great things.

Being yourself should not mean having a closed mind

Rather the opposite should happen because your divine identity is much more than appearances. When you explore your inner, you build an open mind that allows you to understand the universe better and take actions that hep to help in a very small portion.

Learning to be yourself is essential to your personal development

Your way to express yourself and doing things is unique so by working to refine your innate ability can get amazing things. If there is a moment in which you focus on the goals that leads you to success, then you already have learned to be yourself. 

Do not waste time seeking the pleasure in something you do not like

If you don't like something, don't do it, you can get good advice only if they are in line with your aspirations.

Everyday when you wake up, you are to be yourself, you dress the way you want to dress, you wear your hair the way you want, you walk out the door with hopes that your inner self will align with your external world. But as much as you want to admit that you do things for yourself, you cant help but wonder what others would think if you wear a certain piece of clothing or a certain type of hair. i don't know why but you cant help but create these internal struggles that only you can see or feel. You don't want to believe that these thoughts are your truth, but they sometimes take precedence. even though you don't compare yourself to others usually, you cant help but feel that you have to act, talk or LOOK a certain way to be allowed to be part of someone else's world instead of just trusting yourself that you are enough to be loved for who you are. So ,how can you be yourself in a world that might possibly want to change you? because truthfully the only person you should be seeking reassurance from is you and you alone.

1.  Only say things you mean

Nothing is more damaging to your self worth than saying things you don't mean, this goes hand in hand by trying to please others because you are afraid to rub someone the wrong way. Being true to your values and ethics is the greatest gift you can give yourself, it allows you to be open and honest with yourself.

2. Take a break from social media

It can be hard to find your voice when your constantly consuming others thoughts and options. While social media platforms like Instagram, snap-chat, Facebook are there to connect you with other like minded people, they can easily  damper your day when you see something that could trigger a negative thought pattern. For example your mates driving the latest cars, wearing the latest shoes and clothes and you start thinking of a way to meet up to their standards therefore disturbing yourself and inner peace. To avoid these TAKE A BREAK

3. Accept your personality traits

Take time , know if you re an introvert or an extrovert or an ambivert (the blend of the two). give yourself permission to own this and know when you either need an alone time or more time with people. Knowing who you are simply puts you in a position to make choices that compliments your preferences. While an extrovert may strive by filling up their social calendar, an introvert might benefit from prioritizing some Netflix night and chill.

4. Be kind to yourself and appreciate who you are

At the end of the day , you should be kind and no touring to yourself while you are trying to figure out how to become like yourself. Don't beat yourself up, or compare yourself to someone else when it seems so easy for them to be open and honest with their thoughts. Remind yourself to focus on your own journey, do everything in your power to find your voice and take the next step to live your live as you've always wanted to.

"always be a first version of yourself , not a second rate version of someone else"- Judy Garland

The world is a shit place.

It will want you to be a lot of things but not yourself.

It will want you to compromise your goals.

It will say anything too high is bad.

It will say stop smiling, your problems are too big,

It will keep your focus looking on all the wrong things.

Wishes and dreams that are yet to come through.

And i know you can manage but this you don't have too.

You think your weird or you don't belong, i guess you are yet to meet the rest of us, we are misfits too

You don't have to compromise your goal.

You don't have to be like everyone else.

You don't have to conform.

That place you belong , you will find it.

Just be yourself.

Your time will come.

"it is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not"- Andre Gide

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XOXO..BELLA

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