LOVE: IS NOT EASY BUT ITS WORTH IT

                                                                                                                     

I have always wanted to write about love for some time now, but it’s hard expressing my feelings. Over the years I have thought to myself this love of a thing is it really worth it. At one point in my life I just felt that I don’t have to acknowledge the love that people showed me, but does the person knows you love them back? I say stuffs like she knows I love her or he knows I love him. But really do they know that? When was the last time you told your partner you love him/her? When was the last time you made them feel special like they are your highest priority? I learnt much late that telling someone how you feel about them makes everyone happy. I no longer hold back my feelings these days. It is hard for someone to love you if you are never there and it is hard to love someone who wants you with them all the time. It is not a sign of weakness to tell someone you love them or let them love you. I believe it is more than strength because you are confident enough in yourself that you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Love is not all you need in a relationship, you need mutual understanding, respect, compromise, sacrifice, willingness to work at it and stand by him or her when times get rough. You need to be willing to be by their side not only during the bright days but during the dark days, to encourage them to become the best version of themselves but also to love and accept them as they are. To have the impression that there is a perfect person somewhere that will come for you is to have the impression that relationships do not take work, when in fact no relationship has ever worked without work itself. Love isn’t all sunshine and blue skies, there will be lots of rain, thunderstorms, hurricanes and you’re just going to have to get used to it.

Life is messy, relationships are messy. The truth is the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why relationships and marriages fail. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they are out of money or under pressure. For goodness sake, love is something different. Love is choosing to be with someone in spite of their short comings. Love is patient and kind, love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and still wanting to be with that person. Love is never easy. It was never designed to be easy. It would be wrong for anyone to expect love to be simple and uncomplicated. Love is never going to be as smooth as a hot knife running through butter, if you really love someone is not a matter of convenience. It’s not only something you feel only when times are good if u feel so then you don’t love that person. When times are hard you pull those you love closer not away.

A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle like each other. If you are genuinely in love with someone, you won’t spend all day staring deeply into each other’s eyes. No, no, no you are going to have to stress yourself out trying to balance time and your energy for your relationship. You are going to have to deal with your career, your social life, your family and your finances including your relationship. Life isn’t a romantic Hollywood movie. In the real world there’s room for disappointments, broken promises, disagreements, arguments, fights, shattered dreams which can take a toll on your relationships you really have to fight to protect your love that you have for your partner.

Some say love should be easy but in many instances, it’s not the love that is difficult but rather getting it right causes turmoil and tears. We are incredibly and beautifully flawed humans, we mess up about twice as much as we wish we did and somehow it seems the only way we learn is the hard way. If you love deeply, you are going to get hurt badly. But it’s still worth it.

No matter how intimidating it may be to fall in love with someone, it’s always something that is worth fighting for. No matter the risks involved in falling in love, you must be able to take that bet. Love is the single most beautiful thing in the world that we could ever get to experience.

“True love is about vulnerability; allowing someone to see that you want and need them in your life, and trusting them not to hurt you”

Love is hard it’s like a job , so if you’re not ready to love let your partner know say ha no be love matter be this, look this is what I want, to reduce heart breaks in Nigeria Biko. Imagine you loving someone with all your heart making sacrifices and all and the person is thinking is a joke ha!!!!! Please o. But most importantly love is a beautiful thing *winks*

How do you feel about love, I want to hear your thoughts, please feel free to drop your comments.

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